I feel as though I need to apologise to all mums for the person I was before becoming a mum myself.
I used to think I was fairly compassionate and understanding of mothers ... I wasn't.
I'm ashamed to admit that I was one of those people that has in the past said
"why would you bring a baby here?" .. While sipping coffee with other non mums,
I was judgemental without even really realising it.
"Far out that pram is huge! Why do mums insist on coming to cafes with such chunky things!"
I'll tell you why!! Because that pram is probably the only place the baby will sleep and it's probably the only time the mother can escape the four walls of her house to regain some sort of normality and heaven forbid to have an adult conversation.
Oh and the pram is chunky so that it can fit nappies, wipes, wraps, toys, a change of clothes and whatever other crap she wants!
I "get it" now ...
And I'm so sorry to any mother that I secretly judged, although this was never my intention - I realise that simply thinking those things was being judgemental.
I just didn't understand. And I realise now that you will NEVER EVER understand
until you become a mum yourself.
I also get that not everyone likes kids or wants to be a mum and that is perfectly ok. Therefore I do try to be mindful that there are many people in the world just like I was, so I certainly don't sit in tiny cafes taking up space unnecessarily while my baby screams.
I try to be as accommodating as I can for everyone else.
But next time you see a mum in any public place, before you say to yourself,
'why on earth can she not stay at home'
Spare a thought for the poor lady who's sleep deprived and in need of fresh air and some sanity.
I'm writing this while sitting at my local cafe -
don't worry I'm outside and my beautiful little girl is asleep. Finally.
I've had only a few hours sleep and this coffee tastes so good!
Here's hoping it gets me through until dinner!